Students Find Your Passion!
Are you a student? Do you work hard to stand out, to get noticed, to succeed, to fit in, to be special, to not let anybody down, to be a good friend, to be tough when you need to, to stand up for yourself? How are things going for you? How do you feel? Where does all that hard work come from? Does it come from a space “outside of you”? Do you act the way you act because that is what you think is expected? Or do you act the way you do because that is how you want to be? Does your behaviour come from a space “within”?
How can you be sure where your motivation is coming from, from outside or from within? You can make the distinction by feeling how it feels. Does your hard work feel pushy, tired, exhausting, hard, painful almost, a little angry, is there fear involved, annoyance, uncertainty, or a feeling of dependency? Then your motivation most probably comes from outside: you are probably feeling encouraged by what you think that the others, or some others, or one particular someone, expects you to do. It might be politicians, it might be your friends, it might be you family, or it might be your boy- or girlfriend.
When motivation comes from outside, you’re most likely to be depending on their approval, too. You’re doing what you’re doing not primarily for yourself, but for the others. Perhaps you don’t know what it is exactly that you would like to do if it were only for yourself. Perhaps it’s easy to do what the others did before you, or what they didn’t do, so you can show them that you can. Perhaps you feel pressure from others that makes you feel un-free to do what you would really like to do, and therefore tailor yourself to their needs and wishes instead of to your own.
This is called acting re-actively: you respond to what you know or think that the others want or need.
Acting from within, doing what you want to do because you feel that that is what you want to do, is coming from a feeling of passion. It is uniquely for you. It shows who you are, what’s making you special. This behaviour is called acting pro-actively: you act according to what you feel is right, regardless to what the others might expect from you, what they might want to force you to do or how they want you to fit in what they think is right.
Being pro-active gives you a feeling of independence, of freedom, of real joy and happiness, because you don’t follow other people’s dreams, but your own. You are courageous enough to stand up against the others, should they disagree with you, but in a relaxed and confident way, in a gentle way, because you act from your core, and not from what is expected of you by others.
It is nice to have approval of others. But it is much nicer to approve of yourself. To feel proud of what you do, because you are certain that this is what you want to do. Besides, it is also more sustainable to stand in your own power and not in someone else’s.
So if your behaviour is very influenced by others, you might want to build the courage to break that habit and to do what you yourself want to do. And if you’re not sure what that is, you could begin exploring what that might be. There are many ways to find out more about what your passion is. One of them is to pay me a visit and to explore together. And if you know what you want but find it hard to stand up for it, we can work on your courage together too. I use a technique called the Sedona Method. It helps you to let go of fear, anxiety, stress and many other feelings that you would like to be free of.
To your pro-activity, freedom and happiness!
This article was written especially for students. But there are quite a lot of professionals on the work floor and fathers and mothers in families too, who are being re-active and who are actually acting according to what they think someone else or the others expect from them. Are you one of them? Give me a call. Do you know one of them? Please forward this and help our community to be a more empowered, freer and happier place! Thank you.